The worst thing to eat in life is these three bowls of noodles.

The good and the bad are a thing of the past.

the flow of life is like a great torrent:

there are people who are expensive everywhere they go and everything goes well, while others hit rocks and are frustrated all the time.

how to deal with complicated world affairs and get along with others is not only a knowledge, but also an art.

du Yuesheng once said: "in this life, there are three bowls of the worst noodles-decency, scenes, and feelings."

this sentence is concise and to the point, which covers all kinds of occasions in life and clearly explains the philosophy of dealing with people.

Life is not long, but we often encounter all kinds of difficulties. Only by knowing how to eat these three bowls of noodles can we live a comfortable life.

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be decent to live

I once saw a question on Zhihu: "how can a person live a decent life?"

one of the high praise replied: "you can enjoy the best and bear the worst, do not expand when you are happy, and do not give up when you are down." If you have money, you can live with taste, and when you have no money, you can live with quality. "

Yes, whether you have a good life or live a decent life has nothing to do with money.

those who are strong in heart, never give up their yearning for a better life, and always try their best to live a good life in front of them are truly decent.

I know a friend whose family is not well-off, because I have just worked and I don't have any savings.

but every time she sees her, she tidies herself up very well:

he was not dressed in an expensive brand, but he was well-dressed, clean and tidy; he was usually dressed without makeup, but he always had bright eyes, a straight back, and looked particularly confident at first glance.

some time ago, she invited us to her house.

as soon as she entered the room, she found that the space was very small, and the furnishings of the house were also very simple. Fortunately, the room was very neat and tidy, reflecting her little thoughts everywhere.

for example, on the dining table, there is a clean tablecloth and a budding flower.

We teased her about her "fastidious" with flowers, and the friend smiled sheepishly and said:

"I still think that no matter how hard it is, life is still my own, so I usually take some care of it."

outward appearance is as important as inner beauty. You can be in an embarrassing situation, but at any time, it is important to be decent.

there are many people in life who collapse on the bed as soon as they come back from work.

the house is a mess, the dishes and chopsticks are not cleaned up in the sink, the narrow wardrobe and sofa, clothes are piled everywhere.

obviously you can be more respectable, but you have to live a good life.

the more so, the worse the spirit, the more lifeless and sloppy all day, how can the road of life be smooth?

No one has an obligation to discover your rich soul through your sloppy appearance. You must make yourself look pleasing to the eyes in order to have a chance for the world to see you.

put the decision-making power of life in your own hands, face the complexity of the world with a positive attitude, and live honorably into a beam of light even in the dark.

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can withstand the scene

the road of life is rough, full of difficulties, and full of adversity.

when confronted with sudden changes or unprovoked accusations from others, it is easy to get into trouble if it is not handled properly.

and a person's reaction to an embarrassing situation can very much reflect a person's ability and self-cultivation.

the host, he Jiong, is a person with a great sense of the overall situation.

because of his strong ability to control the field, whenever the program needs to be rescued, he will appear as soon as possible.

I remember that in an issue of "yearning for Life", Wei Daxun talked about acting.

he said that being an actor was very tiring. In some places, the director obviously let him act like this, but in the end, the effect was not good, but it was the actor himself who took the blame.

although it is an innocuous complaint, it will inevitably be misinterpreted by conscientious people. Once it is broadcast, I don't know how many directors will offend it, and it may even affect Wei Daxun's star career.

the guests present looked at each other, temporarily did not know how to round the scene, the scene immediately became awkward.

but he Jie took the conversation at this time, deliberately put on an angry expression, and said, "he should have said 'gardenia blossoms'. It's really my fault."

, he did not forget to comfort Wei Daxun warmly: "as an artist, don't make horizontal comparisons. You actually mean it unintentionally, but if I argue like this, I don't seem to have this meaning."

maybe some people will say that he Jie is too slick in the world, and all he says is a scene.

but I think this is the embodiment of self-restraint, tenderness and kindness from the heart.

after all, who doesn't like people who help themselves resolve their embarrassment and support the scene?

the guests who have worked with him also commented on him in this way: "you never have to worry about doing a program with teacher he. No matter what you say wrong, he will definitely catch you."

because he always knows how to "be the scene person, say the scene, and do the scene work", he Jie makes everyone feel warm and comfortable, because he always knows how to be a scene person, say scene words, and do scene work.

what is said and done on any occasion. onePersonal self-cultivation directly determines how much scene he can hold up.

words and deeds are reliable and the pattern is big enough to win the respect of more people.

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take good care of others

I wonder if you have ever observed?

although many people in life have done good deeds, they have burned other people's self-esteem; although they have no malice, they are really good for others, but they make others feel humiliated.

in dealing with the world, we should not only give practical help to others, but also learn to leave some compassion for others.

Zhang Daqian, a master of traditional Chinese painting, has a painting called "the picture of green willow singing cicada".

in the picture, a cicada lies on the branch of a willow tree, with the cicada head down, looking very lifelike.

Zhang Daqian wanted to give the painting to the collector Xu Xilin, just as Qi Baishi was a guest in Xu's family. Mr.

paints vividly. It's just that I once heard an old farmer say that the heads of cicadas are all facing up, and there are very few cases of facing down. "

speaking of this, Qi Baishi was a little embarrassed: "but this is only one side of the story, and I have never seen it with my own eyes."

after hearing this, Zhang Daqian kept it in mind. Once, taking advantage of the opportunity to sketch in Qingcheng Mountain, he ran out of the house to observe carefully and found that the cicadas on the trees were all head up.

when he came back, he told Qi Baishi the results of his observation. Qi Baishi just nodded and smiled but said nothing.

only then did Zhang Daqian realize that Qi Baishi had long known that there was a mistake in the painting, and in order to take care of his own face, he pretended to have heard it from the old farmer.

as the saying goes, "if a man is not a saint, who can make mistakes?"

everyone makes mistakes, but the key is to point out the wrong way and attitude.

if you correct it regardless of the occasion, it will often hurt people's face and embarrass them.

An euphemistic response like Qi Baishi not only maintains the feelings of both sides, but also wins him more admiration.

No one is an island, and we always have to deal with others frequently.

No matter what situation you are in, don't say anything, don't get things done, leave some dignity for others, and save mercy for yourself.