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likes a sentence very much: if cleverness is a gift, then kindness is a choice.

it is commendable for a kind person to have light in his eyes and love in his heart.

but you should also know that the most unpredictable thing in the world is the human heart. Helping others is a good thing, but you must be careful so as not to hurt yourself.

your kindness needs to be sharp. The following three kinds of favors should not be easily helped.

beyond your ability, don't be strong enough to help

A person's time is precious and limited. Good deeds should be put into practice and must not be overrun.

most of the time, if you would rather empty yourself, you have to worry about other people's affairs, and you will find that you are the one who suffers in the end.

you give up your precious time and are squeezed by those who take advantage of your kindness.

like Guan Guan in the TV series Ode to Joy, she has a good heart, but often throws herself half to death.

on one occasion, a colleague asked Guan Guan to work for her, but she did not refuse. As a result, there was a mistake in her work, and when she was criticized by her leader, her colleagues not only did not speak for her, but also did not have a word of comfort afterwards.

Guan Guan often works overtime, not because of her heavy work, but because she agrees whenever her colleagues ask her to stay and help with her work, so she doesn't have much personal time and gets more and more tired.

very often, don't agree to overexert yourself because you are afraid of rejecting others. Instead, you have wronged yourself and brought great trouble to your life.

refusing does not mean becoming indifferent and impersonal, but knowing how to take the initiative in your own life. Do not please deliberately, do not indulge randomly, and do good deeds reasonably.

it is not easy for anyone in life. Only by living yourself well can you help others better.

Don't blindly help

as the saying goes, "A small kindness nourishes a benefactor, and a great kindness nourishes an enemy."

most of the time, if you are good enough to be unreserved, the other person will dare to be unscrupulous.

your kindness should know that enough is enough, and don't spoil those who are helped, making them take an inch and ask for too much.

share a story:

once upon a time, a beggar went to a house to beg. The master gave the beggar ten yuan, and the beggar left happily with the money.

the next day the beggar came to beg again, and the master still gave him ten yuan. In this way, it lasted more than half a year.

one day half a year later, the beggar went to the family to beg as usual, but the master gave only five yuan.

the beggar's face changed greatly: "you used to give me ten yuan a day, but now you only give me five yuan?"

the owner said painfully, "I recently had a serious illness. It takes a lot of money to see a doctor, and I don't have much money."

the beggar was furious: "how dare you take my money to see a doctor?"

helping others is never compromise and tolerance. For those who don't understand and appreciate, don't help.

to be really kind, you must be sharp. Don't use your sincerity to cater to those who ignore you.

you must see clearly who should be good to and who should not be good.

"easy to talk" and "honest man" are not derogatory terms, but don't let this kindness become worthless.

people with bad character should try not to help

rivers and mountains are easy to change, but nature is hard to change.

it is hard to change the nature of the wicked at a time. If you know that there is something wrong with the other person's character, then do not lend a helping hand, encourage unhealthy trends, but also cause trouble.

stories written by people in the past always remind later generations of this:

in winter, the farmer found a snake frozen and felt sorry for it, so he put the snake in his arms and covered it with heat.

the snake woke up warm, regained its nature, bit its benefactor and killed the farmer.

Mr. Dongguo meets a wolf chased by hunters. He, who is nosy and kind at heart, wants to save the wolf's life.

then let him curl up and get into his book bag. After the hunter left, he could not stand the wolf's rhetoric and let the wolf out.

the end is that the wolf pounced on Mr. Dongguo with open teeth and claws.

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as the saying goes, "if a man has a warm heart, there is a lot of solicitation."

in dealing with people, it is good to be happy to help others, but you must think carefully and not act rashly.

the help of indiscriminately distinguishing between true and false, good and evil, not only will not have a good result, but the goodwill of random action has become a guide to set yourself on fire.

rational and principled goodwill is the greater wisdom.

I quite agree with one sentence:

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kindness and love are free, but not cheap.

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your kindness needs some edge, your love needs some sense, after all, not everyone deserves them.

your kindness should be sown in the right soil and reaped by the right people. Otherwise, kindness becomes foolishness and a reason for others to take an inch.

Mencius said: "admiration is worthy of heaven, and does not bow to others."

to be a good person, you have a better world in your heart, which is the blessing of a kind-hearted person.

May you be clean and open all your life, and every kindness will meet with it.

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the ferryman of your heart. The original title "No matter how kind a person is, don't help with these three kinds of help." One book a week is released by authorization.

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